Mai Chisamba: “My brother has been reduced to a fool, akungoda hama dzemukadzi”

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Mai Chisamba

Makadii Mai Chisamba? Thank you so much for this platform, ini handina dambudziko but I am worried sick about my brother and so is the whole family. My brother has been turned into a fool, mishonga yakashata. Before he got married to this crazy woman he calls his wife he was a very normal guy, sociable, loving and outgoing.

Mai Chisamba iye zvino rave rema, haachina kana basa nehama dzake akungoda dzemukadzi wake chete. Most weekends and holidays anenge ari kwaChihota kwavaambuya vake. Our parents are still alive but he hardly visits them hanzi vanotaurisa too much.

Mari kana rubatsiro vanotopihwa kana zvapressa. He tries as much as possible to keep away from us, isuwo takungomusiya akadaro. Last week takambosangana pabirthday remwana wangu tikawirirana nemamwe masiblings kuti tifambe arutsiswe.

I hope you get where I am coming from, mwana wamai vangu akuitwa dununu takatarisa here changosara kudaidzwa surname nemutupo wemukadzi wake.

The wife says we are jealous of their love and progressive life but that’s not true. Ini nyaya yangu ndeyekuti tikamurutsisa tinenge tatadza here? Our reason is we want him back into the family fold.

RESPONSE

Thank you so much for writing in and thank you for using our platform. I can feel your anger but my advice is relax, let us go through your letter phase by phase. You say your brother was once very sociable, loving and outgoing, so the point at issue is what brought about this sudden change in his character.

Ongororai muchidzoka shure mutarise kuti hapana here zvaakagumburwa neve mhuri mukutaura nemukuita, maybe someone crossed his path and this was just swept under the carpet. Makuhwa ndiwo mamwe anosvitsa vanhu pakuvengana imi musina kumboita confrontation. Secondly, if you are so concerned about his right about turn makaitei nazvo in terms of kugadzirisana semhuri? Did anyone of you ask why he was behaving like that?

What makes you so sure that it is about his wife nekuti akadyiswa? Imi kana musina chikechekeche naye munenge muri pai pamunoona achingowadzana nehama dzemukadzi wake chete? Kana muri kudziona kumba kwake zvinoreva kuti imiwo munoendawo kumba kwake or wherever.

You did not explain why you are referring to your sister-in-law as a crazy woman, what did she do or what has she done? Ukanyora uchitsanangura zvose izvi kubatsirana neni kunoita nyore. Ini sachipanga mazano ndinopenengura izvi zvose. Zvinosuwisa kuti dzimwe nguva tinounza ruvengo mumhuri nenyaya yeblame game tichiita gundamusaira (mob psychology) apa tisina kana zivo yekuti zvakatanga sei. Who is keeping the Chihota trips record and how accurate is it? Zvandibata moyo kuti kana zvaoma anobatsira vabereki nemari so it’s not as bad as your letter portrays.

Handishore zvamunodaira asi nyaya yekuenda kun’anga mumwe asingazive mozoda kumuisira mushonga wekumurutsisa I think that is extremely wrong. Ko zvikasafamba zvakanaka?

Ko akaita react kumushonga wacho akarwara kana kufa munozozvitaura here imi? You need each other, you are family why don’t you call for a meeting modaidza vabereki, your brother and spouse and try to iron this out amicably.

Zvekunzi pane tunyaya twe jealous and so forth aah dismiss that as cheap gossip unless pane anomira achiti akazviudzwa. For the good of the family tauriranai and start on a clean slate. – Good luck.

Source: Sunday Mail